Now THIS is Interesting!

[pitbulllady]

A member of the "Fosters' Home" forum that Sparky started posted this link this afternoon, which is a link to a site that delves into personality types, their issues and compatibilities. It breaks personality down into 9 Types, and describes each Type under ideal or "healthy" situations, and "Average" situations, and highly stressful or "unhealthy" situations, as well as going into detail about how the different Types get along-or not-with each other. The person who posted this did so because the "Type Two" personality is a dead-on description of Wilt, but the "Type Three" really got my attention, as well, since that is an equally-accurate description of Randall! You can click on each one to see their strengths and weaknesses, as well as to see which one YOU are. In the side bar on the left, you can find a link to see how the different Types interact with each other, especially with regards to couples, and how they compliment or contradict each other. I'm a Type Five, by the way, and this thing is uncanny in how it describes a relationship between a Type Five and a Three or a Two-exactly as I have pictured it! Probably the best, according to this, would be a Five and a Two-complete opposites, Yin and Yang, but a Five and a Three is another recommended combo. All this time I've wondered why I have found both Wilt and Randall so attractive, and now I know!

Check it out!
www.enneagraminstitute.com/descript.asp

pitbulllady

[RandallBoggs]

"Pfft...least I don't take off my face..."

Hmm...interesting...
But I'm unsure...

[pitbulllady]

The pic of the guy with the mask was to illustrate how a Type Three at his worst tries to hide or mask his true feelings and put on airs, so to speak. Here is the profile for a Type Three, with the upper levels representing the very best, and each descending level the result of increasing stress. Look in the "Unhealthy" levels and tell me THAT does not describe Randall, as we see him in the movie, to a T! Know who is also a Type Three, and y'all have seen me post this, before, too: Mike Wazowski! And HE is not a "Healthy" Three, either, but a Level Six-still in better shape than Randall, but definately the same personality Type, which means that when pushed, Mike can go to a Level Nine.

Profile Summary for Enneagram Type Three
Healthy Levels
Level 1 (At Their Best): Self-accepting, inner-directed, and authentic, everything they seem to be. Modest and charitable, self-deprecatory humor and a fullness of heart emerge. Gentle and benevolent.

Level 2: Self-assured, energetic, and competent with high self-esteem: they believe in themselves and their own value. Adaptable, desirable, charming, and gracious.

Level 3: Ambitious to improve themselves, to be "the best they can be"—often become outstanding, a human ideal, embodying widely admired cultural qualities. Highly effective: others are motivated to be like them in some positive way.

Average Levels
Level 4: Highly concerned with their performance, doing their job well, constantly driving self to achieve goals as if self-worth depends on it. Terrified of failure. Compare self with others in search for status and success. Become careerists, social climbers, invested in exclusivity and being the "best."

Level 5: Become image-conscious, highly concerned with how they are perceived. Begin to package themselves according to the expectations of others and what they need to do to be successful. Pragmatic and efficient, but also premeditated, losing touch with their own feelings beneath a smooth facade. Problems with intimacy, credibility, and "phoniness" emerge.

Level 6: Want to impress others with their superiority: constantly promoting themselves, making themselves sound better than they really are. Narcissistic, with grandiose, inflated notions about themselves and their talents. Exhibitionistic and seductive, as if saying "Look at me!" Arrogance and contempt for others is a defense against feeling jealous of others and their success.

Unhealthy Levels
Level 7: Fearing failure and humiliation, they can be exploitative and opportunistic, covetous of the success of others, and willing to do "whatever it takes" to preserve the illusion of their superiority.

Level 8: Devious and deceptive so that their mistakes and wrongdoings will not be exposed. Untrustworthy, maliciously betraying or sabotaging people to triumph over them. Delusionally jealous of others

Level 9: Become vindictive, attempting to ruin others' happiness. Relentless, obsessive about destroying whatever reminds them of their own shortcomings and failures. Psychopathic, murder. Generally corresponds to the Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Key Motivations: Want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.

Randall had been pushed, by circumstances beyond his control, to a Level Nine. According to this, and it backs up what I've always said about him, he COULD NOT HAVE HELPED but to do what he did; his personality dictated it! This was a natural consequence of that amount of stress applied to a Type Three. Remember how I've also always said that if Randall was taken out of that environment, and we could have seen him in a completely different situations, that he probably would have been a really nice, funny guy who'd bend over backwards to help someone? Look at the optimal situation, Level One.

pitbulllady

[pitbulllady]

Here is what is says about a pairing of a Type Five(me)and a Type Three:
"This is a frequently seen combination, although one that might not be expected. Enneagram Fives often give Threes depth, new areas of expertise and credibility, while sparking creativity. Threes give Fives confidence, presentation skills, and awareness of the importance of communicating effectively with others. Both Threes and Fives are primarily focused on their work and on objective issues and concerns. Both types are preoccupied with competency and effectiveness, especially in their professional areas, and this is where they support each other in an outstanding way. Although both have deep feelings, both tend not to focus on them for the sake of getting on with their work. They tend to understand each other's need to balance closeness with their need for personal space: they do not crowd each other. Threes contribute social skills, the ability to communicate and to sell ideas and projects, charm, energy, and a strong sense of practicality to the relationship. They can often see what is needed in the relationship or in the world and help to marshal the Five's skills toward that goal. Fives bring depth of understanding, expertise in one or more areas, perseverance with details until the goal is accomplished, an objective dispassion, and lack of attachment to outcomes.

This can be a "brilliant" couple—sharp, successful, deeply competent, and well respected. If they are attractive, Threes can be a trophy for Fives who are usually less concerned with appearance; Fives, on the other hand, can also be a trophy for Threes who are proud of the Five's expertise and who are glad to learn from them whenever they can. Both regard the other as a catch who enhances their own self-esteem and social standing. Their deep, often unspoken, feelings for each other frequently deepen even more over time, gradually allowing this couple to discover not just passion but quiet affection and pride in each other."

pitbulllady

[RandallBoggs]

Whoa...

[RandallBoggs]

"Pfft...even if all that's true I don't think the "well-respected" part would go around for me..."

[lizardgirl]

Personally, I'm a type four, which is sort of averagely compatible to Randall's type.

[RandallBoggs]

"?"

[vladimirgg]

9 THE PEACEMAKER

The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent

<- my type. I also see a great deal of the individualist in me. Interesting to see your delving deeper into your own personality as well as that of characters you admire

[vladimirgg]

4 THE INDIVIDUALIST

The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental
YEah I have two personality types.

Vlad1: No you don't!
Vlad2: Yes I do, now f*** off!!!
*blush*

[RandallBoggs]

Uh...huh

[Weasel Freak]

I'm Type Four.


Enneagram Type Three (the Achiever) with Enneagram Type Four (the Individualist)

These two types can form something of a complementary relationship, with each bringing important qualities to the relationship that the other generally lacks. Enneagram Fours can teach Threes how to talk about themselves on a deeper level and help acknowledge and process their feelings. They can also bring Threes more sensitivity, a feeling for beauty and for the non-practical but fulfilling aspects of life. Finding the Three's heart's desire is an extremely important area of self-awareness in which Fours can play a helpful role to Threes. Fours can bring a sense of style and presentation, rich communication, and sense of refinement. Threes model many of the qualities that Fours would like to develop in themselves, and Threes are well-suited to helping Fours gain new skills. Threes can bring a good deal of tact and diplomacy to handling Fours' emotional reactions and their sometimes too-sensitive feelings and self-doubts. Knowing what to say and when to say it-and what not to say—to a Four can be crucial for building trust in the relationship and avoiding inadvertent episodes when either feels humiliated or embarrassed. Threes can bring a sense of hope and ambition to the relationship, practical goal-setting, coaching and behavior management techniques that help Fours get out of a slump or a period of low energy. Threes can coach Fours on how to get on with practical matters and to act professionally despite the shifts in their feelings and self-doubts.

Since both types are driven by (often unconscious) feelings and reactions, this can be an intense and passionate coupling. Both are aware of "image" issues and about how others perceive them, and so this couple will be noteworthy for its energy, flair, sense of style, and enjoyment of the finer things of life. They may both feel a connection with the other that goes beyond words or reason into another realm as if they had known each other from a previous existence or that the other is some kind of soul mate.

[sympathetic]

I'm a mixture of One and Three. Not sure why, but I can totally relate to both of them.